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It is not always easy ro remember, but we humans have more in common than we realize. “Our bodies have 3 billion genetic building blocks, or base pairs, that make us who we are. And of those 3 billion base pairs, only a tiny amount are unique to us, making us about 99.9% genetically similar to the next human (National Human Genome Research Institute).” As I relate with compassionate curiosity, I learn how much we have in common with one another. I believe that the current the current 2020 population of 7.8 billion people (Jul 10, 2020) can all agree on several basic values.

We all want to have restful, restorative sleep, to live in a safe environment, to have meaningful work enough to fund our lives. Everyone wants to enjoy a good meal, to rest, to laugh & to spend time with our family & friends. We all want our children to be safe, healthy, happy and to share time with them. How we look physically, where we live, how we dress, what we do for work & the foods we prefer are merely interesting differences. These differences are not “better,” or “worse” just different.

In The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. John Gottman’s research revealed that 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable. These include things like personality traits your partner has that rub you the wrong way, or long-standing issues around spending and saving money. Their research findings emphasize the idea that couples must learn to manage conflict rather than avoid or attempt to eliminate it. There are many roads to manage conflict. Although it’s difficult, it’s worth it to meet with an experienced counselor if you need help.

I believe and practice relating to people with compassionate curiosity improves our relationships and enriches our lives. We all want to be seen, valued and validated. When I relate to someone with compassionate curiosity, I learn something about the experience we share through a new perspective. Valuing another person’s different perspective deepens our relationship whether or not we agree. It enriches my life when I practice relating this way. I gain perspective and learn from others experiences and I grow in peace, joy, kindness, generosity, love & contentment.

I pray that we will consider practicing relating to one another as described above. Also, that we will remember that we humans all have infinitely high, incorruptible value. We are valuable as we are now with all our strengths and struggles. Also, I pray that we will remember that we humans are all worthy of extravagant love and belonging. Our value and worthiness are not contingent. That is, these do not increase or decrease based on our choices, preferences, bank accounts, our looks, health, etc. Please join me in believing the best in one another and finding the unique light in everyone we meet. Recognize this in yourself and in someone today. Tell someone what you admire and appreciate about them.

Why do we crave sugar?

If too much added sugar is bad for our health, then why do we crave it? While there isn’t a definite answer, science points to multiple reasons for why it’s so hard to quit the sweet stuff. One common theory is that sugar cravings were a survival mechanism back in hunter-gatherer days. When food was scarce, high sugar foods were important as sugar (via insulin) is key for fat storage as well as provides immediate energy.

why do we still get these cravings when we live in a society where food is abundant? You can largely thank your brain for that. When you’re having a bad day, how many of you reach for a salad? Probably not many. No, most of us want that pint of ice cream or a candy bar. And that’s simply because eating sugar makes us feel good – and science can explain why. Sugar intake affects two neurotransmitters (chemicals found in the brain) dopamine and serotonin.

Dopamine plays a major role in the motivational component of our reward and pleasure centers. Not only does it help regulate emotional responses and identify rewards, but it also enables us to take action to get those rewards. Research has shown that when an individual eats a high sugary food or beverage, there’s a surge in dopamine release, making us feel pleasure. And overtime, as we continue to consume high levels of sugar, there’s actually a decrease in dopamine receptors, making it harder to get pleasure from other substances and experiences. As a result we can become more dependent on sugar for a reward. Furthermore, when the brain is low on dopamine, it can lead to withdrawal-like symptoms including fatigue, depression and headaches.

And if that isn’t enough, sugar also affects serotonin. Serotonin helps regulate mood, with low  levels associated with depression. When we eat sugar, research has shown that there is a surge in brain serotonin, making us feel happy.

There are many other reasons for craving sugar, including:

• Not fueling your body appropriately. Balanced meals of fat, protein, and complex carbohydrates work to provide a steady stream of energy to the body, but when you don’t eat enough of these filling nutrients, your body may want a quick source of energy from high sugar foods. Yale researches found dramatic falls in blood sugar from eating a meal that was inadequate in fiber, protein and fat. As a result, the participants reported feeling a loss of self-control and craved high calorie, high sugar foods.
• Habits. Whether we usually order a sugary drink from a coffee shop every morning or we eat cookies every movie night, we habitually consume highly sugary foods at specific times of day or during certain events.
• Eating salty food. While this isn’t true for everyone, for some, eating salty foods leads to craving something sweet to balance it out.

How to Beat the Cravings

Yes, sugar cravings are real and can be hard to break, but it is possible! Here are ten tips for successfully reducing intake of sugar.

1. Start slow. While some individuals do well going cold-turkey and cutting out sweets, soda, and other sources of added sugars, most of us do better making small changes at a time. For example, if you eat sweetened oatmeal every morning, chances are it won’t be easy, or enjoyable to switch to plain oatmeal. Instead, start small by slowly reducing the amount of sugar and adding in cinnamon and some berries on top. Over time, your taste buds will adjust to the reduced sweetness. And I have proof!
2. Eat mindfully. Many fruits, vegetables, and even grains are sweeter than we realize because many of us eat super sweet beverages and snacks – and we eat them quickly. By slowing down when you eat and really noticing the flavors of your food, you may be surprised at how sweet many foods are without added sugars.
3. Eat regular meals with fats, protein, and fiber to keep blood sugar stable. As we discussed above, balanced meals are key for keeping cravings in check. And this applies to snacks as well! Think about snacks as mini meals, which should have at least two if not all three macronutrients (protein, fat, carbohydrate).
4. Manage stress. Remember how sugar makes us feel good? When we’re stressed it’s easy to grab something sweet for a quick pick-me-up. But that’s all it is: a temporary fix. Whether it’s doing breathing exercises, going for a run, or singing along to music, finding a non-food way to cope with stress is key for keeping our bodies, and minds, healthy.
5. Get enough sleep. Research shows that sleep deprivation leads to increased production of ghrelin – the hunger hormone. When researchers restricted participants to 4 hours of sleep/night and then flashed pictures of healthy and unhealthy foods, the junk food shots activated the brain’s reward centers.
6. Drink water. Often when we get sugar cravings, we’re actually just thirsty. By drinking water regularly throughout the day you may find a reduction in cravings.
7. Avoid artificial sweeteners. While artificial sweeteners sound enticing: little-to-no calories or sugar, the truth is that most of these artificial sweeteners are actually sweeter than real sugar, resulting in increased cravings for sweets. Skip the fake stuff and enjoy real sugar in moderation.
8. Keep foods flavorful. For some, foods with a serious flavor-punch like ginger, sour, or minty can ward off sugar cravings.
9. Spice things up. Yes, this is different than the last point. There’s ongoing research into the ability of certain spices to help stabilize blood sugar levels, thereby reducing sugar cravings. These include cinnamon, ginger, and turmeric.
10. Be patient! Most importantly, be patient with yourself. It takes time to break habits and adjust your taste buds.

Do you have any tips or tricks for cutting back on added sugar? We’d love to hear- share in the comments below!